Why my friends call me Jessica Simpson

Today I want to share a funny story… Why my friends call me Jessica Simpson. First off I think she is absolutely gorgeous, hilarious, a wonderful mother and an incredible business woman. I totally take it as a compliment. Ok to put out my disclaimer first… I grew up in a town of 329 people , no traffic light and they recently closed our post office . I definitely grew up in Smalltown USA. ( and still live here)…We were basic folks growing up. Dining out was going to Western Sizzler.. I didn’t try a lot of new foods until adulthood… Watch my video below and brace yourself for a good laugh. I think laughter is the best medicine. One of the best things you can do is learn not to take yourself so serious. Learn to laugh and roll with life. I promise it is so much more FUN!!

Speaking of Fun, you should totally join my Facebook group… Link below.. Life is to short for boring, and it should also be true when you are jumping in to your healthy lifestyle. Try new foods, dine at new places, have new experiences. Join me and we will do it together and have lots of laughs.

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I may FALL but I will get back up... My story of a miracle 💕✌🏻

Today I sit in so much GRATITUDE. Soaking up the goodness of God. The past 6 months have been so completely life changing for me. As 2018 was coming to an end, I was praying for God to show me my “WORD” for the upcoming year. This is something that I have been doing for awhile ,and it is so cool to see how God speaks. Some years it has been hard words . JOY.. man that is such a tough one because it is learning how to have JOY during your mountaintop moments, and also JOY in the valley moments. The year of JOY for me was 2016. That will be another blog post on another day. OK FOCUS Gena, Back to 2019.. Ok.. OKAY.. OKURRR so I was in much prayer about my word for the year, and it kept coming to me in a PHRASE.. Everywhere I went, every sermon, every podcast the phrase “The Lord will direct your steps” was mentioned. So I was feeling pretty confident that the Lord was telling me that this was pretty important.

The Lord will Direct your steps … Photo creds…myself lol.. taken in Puerto Rico

The Lord will Direct your steps … Photo creds…myself lol.. taken in Puerto Rico

January 9th 2019 …I am out and about doing some errands , really just some shopping lol.. Anywho I am on the phone with my man and making dinner plans. I hang up my cell. As I’m leaving the store to get in my car, I missed the curb . It felt like my life went in slow motion. I knew that I was falling but I could not stop it. I tried to catch myself but alas my head and face hit the pavement . My arms went numb and the world was spinning. I was “Out of it” for just a few seconds. I was woozy, my face was on fire, my hands, both arms and knees were suddenly on fire and throbbing, I sat up and was just in shock that I had fell. The only one in the parking lot was a sweet elderly lady with her oxygen tank. She asked me if I was Ok and did I need ambulance. I finally sat up and was in so much shock trying to understand what happened. I had blood running down my face and hands. I didn’t think I needed an ambulance and felt like I could drive myself to the ER ( hindsight I had noooooooo business driving myself). I get in my car and sit there for a moment. The pain in my arms is so intense, and at this point I think I may have broken both my arms. I call my husband and tell him what has happened and to meet me at the ER. Bless him he was so confused and so scared because we had just been talking.

The 5 minute drive to the ER was excruciating. I was screaming the entire time and just couldn’t believe that this had happened. All the thoughts running through my head weren’t pretty .How did I miss the curb? How could I have been so careless? What am I going to do if both my arms are broke. I just remember praying so hard for the pain to be relieved and for me not to have done some bad damage to my body. Finally I arrived at the ER. My arms were starting to swell and I couldn’t even apply enough pressure to get my seatbelt unfastened. Luckily the ER had a valet attendant who helped me get out of the car and parked it for me. I didn’t have to wait very long to be seen . I’m sure my crying and moaning had something to do with it . The doctor assessed me in triage and started ordering xrays . Due to blacking out for a few moments and the big knot on the side of my head , He ordered a CT Scan to make sure no brain bleed . My xrays came back fine, although I wasn’t convinced my arms weren’t broken. They put my right arm in a splint as my elbow was swollen and I couldn’t get it in a comfortable position. We waited for awhile and finally a nurse practitioner came in. He said “your CT scan is back , no brain bleed but you do have a tumor. You need to follow up with a neurosurgeon.” I was like can you repeat that?! Y’all I was not expecting that at all . The hubby and I left shocked and scared. What had just happened?!

Pavement 1… Gena 0.. This was a few days after the fall. When I could bend my arm enough to take a selfie.

Pavement 1… Gena 0.. This was a few days after the fall. When I could bend my arm enough to take a selfie.

You know how things happen at just the most inconvenient time?! Well ….When this happened my parents were out of the country on a cruise . My husband was leaving town the next day for a wheelchair basketball tournament. My brother was also going out of town . My son was still living 3 hours away . I was home alone, scared and I was in so much pain. I couldn’t put any pressure on my hands ( if you’ve ever had shin splints, multiply it by a million and that’s how my arms were). I could barely feed myself as my elbows were so swollen that I couldn’t bend them. During this time I just had to rely on God to get me through . Satan was wreaking havoc on my mind and I was going through every worse case scenario. I had to capture each thought . Then I remembered my word/phrase for the year, and I laughed so hard. Yes GOD, you did direct my steps, right off the curb. Had I not fallen I would not have known about this brain tumor. Oh the stories I have heard of “accidents” that reveled something way bigger. Ya’ll I was so blessed that my women’s ministry team came and brought me food, they prayed for me and loved me so well. It is so wild looking back that 1 year ago I did not know these ladies and now they have become my best friends. Side note.. If you do not have a tribe of prayer warriors , PLEASE get connected with your local church.. My life has been so blessed by being connected.. ( another blog post about why that took me so long!)

I had a few obstacles but finally was scheduled for an MRI and appointment with my neurosurgeon Dr Tim Burson. I had seen him years ago for my lower back issue, but apparently you get kicked out of the system if you haven’t been seen in 3 years... AND my insurance company did not want to approve the MRI .Since I just had a CT scan. The doc had to request and get approved for the MRI ( which gives a better view and diagnosis for brain tumors). I went by myself and had my MRI. After I was finished I really was wishing that I would have taken the hubby or my mom. The MRI just emotionally drained me. The following day we met with Dr Burson. By this time I had already spent so much time researching Menigioma Brain Tumors . I knew all the good, bad and ugly but I wanted to hear from the expert! The location of my tumor sits right in the middle of my brain, so it affects both hemispheres. The official diagnosis was a parafalcine meningioma . He said that due to location and size that he would put me on the “Wait and Watch “ protocol. He felt that doing a biopsy would cause more problems and that 99% of these tumors are benign and slow growing. We felt comfortable with waiting.

But ya’ll know the waiting season is HARD. We all want instant gratification . So waiting 6 months to see what this tumor is going to do was challenging. I will tell you that this has changed my perspective so much. Things that used to worry and stress me out I simply just think they aren’t worth it. We are here for just a short time and life is fragile.I know that I am truly blessed. I could have easily gotten a very different diagnosis. My friend Katie has been going through a hard battle with brain cancer, chemo/radiation and several brain surgeries. So anytime I would start getting upset or my mind would be come anxious I would just think how truly blessed I am .

Fast Forward 6 months , and honestly it went by so much faster than you can imagine. I was scheduled for MRI and followup with Dr Burson on the same day. I wish that I would have videoed the look on the doctors face! He came in was like, your tumor hasn't grown… and with the biggest smile says …The report said “ what was PREVIOUSLY thought to be a meningioma now may SIMPLY BE a dural calcification”. He said basically you got a rock in your head and it should not grow or cause any issues. To be on the “safe side” we are going to repeat the MRI in one year… YA’LL the ONLY ANSWER to a changed diagnosis is ONLY GOD. I LOVE his sweetness and goodness for ME! And friends YOU can have it too! Just ask him in your heart to be Lord of your life, and develop an intimate relationship with him. I have seen plenty of miracles in nursing and in my life, this one was so amazing. Thinking back to my phrase for the year. He will direct your steps. You just have to let him. I am not saying that your going to fall off a curb, but TRUST there is always something bigger going on. God has a plan for my life and for yours. I want to spend mine telling everyone of HIS goodness, and that HE is STILL in the Miracle working business!

Date night with the hubs, CELEBRATING how GOOD GOD IS!!

Date night with the hubs, CELEBRATING how GOOD GOD IS!!

Welcome to the ONLINE PARTY ✌🏻💕

Welcome to our Arbonne ONLINE/ Text Party. .. Ummmm what is that.....OK...Brace yourself... this "party" was designed just for you. WHY.. Because I get it. You are BUSY, and for the LOVE of your sanity... I won't add you to another group or blow up your news feeds with notifications and make you lose it.  So take a deep breath and let me share a little more.

I am passionate about HEALTH & WELL. and am #obsessed with all things Arbonne. My heart is to share these PURE products that will transform you from the inside out. We have over 400 products for people with skin and who eat, so I am feeling pretty confident we have something you will LOVE!! 

How is your current skincare? If you are not wow'ed ...is that a word?..with the way your skin looks then check out our skincare lines. Maybe you want to freshen up your cosmetics? Our cosmetic line has some super cool technology to help you look #FLAWLESS. For REAL. Let's chat for just a second about Nutrition. Going out on a limb but assuming you eat. Maybe you skip a few meals or are constantly on the go and suffer with NO ENERGY.. PLEASE take a look at our Healthy Living Plan. Will CHANGE your LIFE... not even making that up.

Ok so NOW what.. Here's the shake down. We want to make this ONLINE TEXT PARTY super EASY 🎉🎉 Let's get STARTED 🎉🎉

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Alpaca stare down

Ohhhh yesss.... I am knocking out my goal to having new experiences . It has been so much fun 🎉🎉🎉  and truly incredible to start looking at opportunities through a different perspective. To actually LIVE this life I’ve been given. To be silly, quirky, fun and completely cheesing it up!!

Alpacapoolza... that sounds fun, right!! I mean who doesn’t LOVE alpacas ❤️❤️❤️. We attended this fun event in Little Rock, AR at the Heifer International headquarters. We petted the alpacas , played bag-o ( girls won 🎉🎉), and enjoyed being outside with the fambam.  I even had a “stare down” with this blonde beauty!



Blonde alpaca stare down... She thinks we may be cousins 🤣🤣




She’s definitely strutting her stuff. 


Bag-o .... Lynae and I WON ✌🏻 





My Heart ❤️... Love having my man child home from college.


As a family we had so much fun and even better it was FREE 💥💥🔥🔥. The next time your scrolling Facebook check out the events section. Here you will find a ton of upcoming events in your area. I encourage you find something completely different than anything you’d normally do! The Fryars loved it!! Next blog .... Went to lunch and ended up at a parade 😍😍😍🤩🤩🤩

Day tripping to Paris

One of my goals for 2018 was to start having new experiences and more adventure in my life. I want to live this beautiful life I’ve been given. The opportunity presented itself for the hubby and I to have a fun day trip to Paris ❤️❤️ Oooohhh la la ❤️❤️❤️ I know what your thinking...Paris France  🇫🇷 Although the city of Love is on my list, this was actually Paris Arkansas. Small town charm, a mini Eiffel Tower , a small fence of locks of Love !! We totally cheesed it up and took 5 minutes to check it out! 



Paris and the mini Eiffel Tower ... Zoom in and you can see the “locks of Love “ fence ♥️♥️


The love of my life ❤️




After we made out and had a little romantic smoochie smooch, we were hungry . Only 15 minutes away is Mount Magazine state park . They have a beautiful Lodge and Skycrest Restaurant, with a view that will take your breath !!



Mount Magazine  


We had a beautiful day and had so much fun! It was definitely a cheap date in regards to money, but rich in Love, adventure and Fun.


I want to encourage you to start a goal of adding in new experiences. Go to new places, try new restaurants, get lost and end up in Paris ♥️♥️  I PROMISE you it will be worth it !

Goal weight ... I’m coming for you

14 pounds to go ✌🏻💕 

Since returning home from Mexico I made the decision to reach my goal weight 😍  My  overall weight loss is 86 lbs... Losing weight isn’t as hard as KEEPING IT OFF... This past year I’d had a slip and gained 14lbs ... Emotional eating got the best of me 😬😬😬😬 I KNEW that I wasn’t going back to my “before “ pic & needed to get SERIOUS! I’ve lost 14lbs which is what I’ve maintained and kept off for the past 6 years!!!



Back to my “comfortable weight” 


I’m excited to embrace my continued journey to my GOAL WEIGHT!!! I’ve never been there... so why not do it!!!! I mayyyyyy just get comfortable there!! Next up ... got to get back in the gym and running on the trail! Hurry up spring ! I’m coming for ya ✌🏻💕 

Let it Flow

My current mantra...You get what you give... So make it good ✌🏻 

You get what you give... make it good

You get what you give... make it good

 After the last few months, my emotions have been on a roller coaster . Lots of highs and a few really hard lows. Not uncommon because it's life... We aren't promised that everything will be smooth sailing . What really caught me off guard was some old patterns in the emotional eating department. Ughhh ... I thought I'd conquered that issue. Well friends, I'm human 😉.  

My weight loss journey is just that, a journey. A journey that I'll be on while I'm on this side of heaven. I'd felt really good losing 70 pounds and keeping it off for 5 years. Yay me!! Well two years ago an old back injury reared its head . It wasn't pretty. I wasn't able to workout, and was in a great amount of pain for over year. At this point I'd gained 5 pounds but felt comfortable. ( As comfortable as one can be with lifelong body image issues).  

Last year my back was much better, but I did not make working out a priority. We had lots of vacations, work trips and way to many taco and margarita nights. All-inclusive trips are amazing but when you have several back to back, the weight can sneak up on you quickly. And then emotional eating from some hard family stuff .  Add on another 5-8 pounds, which in my mind feels like 100 pounds. At this point I'm realizing a few things and made some healthy mind shifts . So here it goes ! My tips for a better body mindset!

Love yourself 💗💞 . Every ounce of your beautiful self . Don't let the scale or dress size determine how you feel. It's ok to have some set backs. What's important is learning to adjust and learning to love each day your given.  Realize your Gorgeous and beautifully made.😍

Bahamas's 2016 #owningmybody #selflove  

Bahamas's 2016 #owningmybody #selflove  



Get your body moving . Whatever that looks like for you. A quick walk. Squats while brushing your teeth ( yes in the mornings I do a few barre moves while getting ready). Find an exercise you LOVE ❤️ Hiking, walking, running, yoga, it doesn't matter .Life is way to short to hate exercising. Our bodies are designed to move. Find something that makes you smile . LET IT FLOW!! I absolutely love yoga, and am getting back on the mat! 

Yoga flow and glitter toes     Last tip is in the food department. Find a plan that works for you. I have done every diet on the market. I didn't want to spend my life consumed with counting  carbs, calories and points. I've learned what foods serve my body and which ones don't. I love how my body feels when I give it the right fuel. I've learned to be more aware of my emotional triggers. I KNOW numbing with food will never be the answer. I know if I slip up it's OK. I'll get back up again ✌🏻

Yoga flow and glitter toes


Last tip is in the food department. Find a plan that works for you. I have done every diet on the market. I didn't want to spend my life consumed with counting  carbs, calories and points. I've learned what foods serve my body and which ones don't. I love how my body feels when I give it the right fuel. I've learned to be more aware of my emotional triggers. I KNOW numbing with food will never be the answer. I know if I slip up it's OK. I'll get back up again ✌🏻

Green Smoothie #10daygreentox #nomakeup #loveyourself

Green Smoothie #10daygreentox #nomakeup #loveyourself

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Through it all, my eyes are on you

Oh friends. This is a hard one to share. One that I never imagined I'd have to write . You've heard me joke a hundred times , contrary to social media post , our life isn't always rainbows and unicorns! It sure is close , but we do have "stuff " that happens . Hard stuff happens to us all . The messy part of life that none of us get through the Earthly life without .

So here goes ... the messiness of life that we are coming out of . What I call  the #blindside. I am still having a hard time comprehending how our family could go from the "highest of high" , to the "lowest of low" in just a few months time .

Every since my son was a baby , probably even before he was born, I prayed . I prayed that he would come to know Jesus Christ as his own personal Lord and Savior ( checked off the list when he was 9 years old! Thank you to my bestie Donna for being his Vacation Bible School teacher and leading him to accept Jesus in his heart ❤️). And I also prayed, for his future wife ! That she would Love the Lord, and would love Dillon with all her heart.

He met and fell in love and dated Amanda for over  4 years . From high school sweet hearts, to proms to college life , and many many trips in between. Our family grew to love her and accept her as one of our own. For me , it was like the daughter I never had , and even more so she spent a lot of time with us . Which meant we got to spend more time with our son ! It was like a win win! My hubby on the other hand had a gut feeling that something was off. I would tell him to be quiet and  would move on. He's been through a lot more hard knocks in life and has a little more "gut instinct/discernment " than I do. I trust everyone and really only want to look at their best! Lord knows I've got enough junk of my own.

Well the longer the relationship went on , the more talk of marriage increased . Billy and I were married at 20, and my parents at 18. We knew they were young , but we also knew that although we had some rough patches , it was really nice to grow up together and be married to your best friend . So we did not object and were happy for them. 

They married in July in Mexico in a symbolic ceremony! It was absolutely gorgeous and we were thrilled. When we got back to the US they were to have a small civil ceremony at our house with family and friends . That is when in my heart I knew something was not right . She had this strained look the whole ceremony  . Something was off in my soul. I kept asking my husband all through it what was going on, what did he think, etc. I think my mom radar finely sensed that maybe she didn't love him like I thought . I was sick and prayed that I was wrong .

The next week they were to return to their apartment at college , and she was taking a night shift weekend option job at this hospital. I told her that it's really hard working night shift , and being away all weekend , not sleeping in the same bed , are really hard on a marriage . ( Personal experience! I worked nightsthe first and half after Dillon was born , and it was difficult and a strain on the marriage ).

Ok .. So here comes the #blindside 😬

Election night , Dillon text that he needs to talk. I KNEW in my heart before I talked to him on the phone it was going to be bad. He had found out that she had started seeing a guy that she worked with. My momma heart was shattered. How could she do this ? I loved her like a daughter and even more hurtful how could she break his heart. I will never understand it. I do KNOW that my God, works ALL things for his glory.

I am thankful that if it were going to happen it was early on. I am thankful that they did not have any babies. I am thankful for no debt, mortgages, cars and all the things that one acquires in a lengthy relationship. I am thankful that my son has been a ROCK through all of this. One thing for sure, my husband and I have messed up on a lot of things, but we did good raising Dillon . His character , his strength and his attitude our a great testimony for his walk with Christ . I am thankful that one day God will give him a wife that will love him for who is, who will not try to change him, but encourage him to be the best version of himself . I am thankful that one day I WILL have a daughter that I will LOVE With all of my heart , and most importantly one the will love my boy.

Life . It's going to hit you in one way or another. The questions that I ask myself. Are you going to let this make you bitter,  OR make you BETTER! Weaker or Stronger? Victim or Victor? Some days are harder than others , but I know we are healing! We are moving ahead with our new normal . And as a friend recently shared with me , sometimes you have to have a crack, that's how the light gets in 😍

Much Love,


My boy ❤️ 

My boy ❤️ 

Smiling is my favorite  


Christmas at The Castle

The Castle is a great location for events and weddings nestled on the outskirts of Little Rock. I used to drive by it while I was a home health nurse... man that seems like a lifetime ago! I would day dream about attending a party or wedding there. Fast forward several years, and I knew it was the perfect location for my team Christmas Party.

The Castle

The Castle

The party was fabulous. I mean who doesn't like to dress up and look pretty. The Castle was beautifully decorated . We hired a roaming guitarist to play for us and that was a wonderful addition. Lots of food, fun and drinks were had by all.  


My handsome date  

My handsome date  

A few pics of me and my gorgeous friends 💕💞 

Jane Marie and I

Jane Marie and I

Team Fun 🎉🎉

So much fun celebrating a room full of world changers, life breathers, hope dealers and dream givers. 

We get paid for this 😍 

We get paid for this 😍 

These last few months have been the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. My Faith has gotten me through both.  

Busy Busy Summer

Wow.. what a summer! Normally we have a laid back slow pace... BUT... not this one! This one was EPIC!!  So much to share so will do some individual blogs on each trip! 

We started with achieving the top Level of my company . Plus got to spend a week in Laguna Beach ! 

Then when getting home from California we flew out the next day for my son's Destination Wedding!! Mexico for a week with ALL MY LOVES 💞💕💗. 

Baby boy and the LOVE of his life 💞💕 

Baby boy and the LOVE of his life 💞💕 

We also had a quaint "legal" ceremony back in the states! It was just as beautiful!! 

PLUS we added in a trip to Florida where the hubs made some amazing advancements with his spinal cord injury ( videos and whole blog to come on that experience!!)

Mad love for each of you!  Thanks for allowing me to share our adventures with you!! More to come on that !! We've got Bahamas, NYC, Maui and Vegas!!   I will leave you with this... LOVE THE LIFE YOU LIVE 💞💗💕💞

How I always have Energy!

Hey girls! I'm back from my fabulous trip to Las Vegas! One things for sure the town never sleeps . And I didn't rest much either! One thing I definitely noticed was my energy level was high despite being constantly on the go... Whoop whoop! Check us out , looking so glam for our White party! 

Me and my girl bosses

Me and my girl bosses



My quick tips to increase my energy and stamina.  

1. Never ever say "I'm tired". Repeat the phrase "I have so much energy ". It's just a little brain teaser but really works ! Trust me.

2.  Sunshine is good for the soul. Also   helps boost your mood & Vitamin D levels! If I'm feeling sluggish 10-15 minutes outside soaking up the sun does the trick!! 

3. Arbonne Energy Fizz Sticks! These are my go to pick me up! Loaded with B Vitamins that help increase energy and your immune system! My favorite is to make an energy smoothie! 8-10 oz of water, 1 packet of Energy Fizz, handful of strawberries. Add ice and blend! Instant pick me up!!  


Energy Smoothie

Energy Smoothie

4. Turn up the Jams. This is a fun playlist that I put together for my Vegas trip! Definitely will boost your energy!! 



Really hope my tips help you feel full of energy & ready to rule the world!! 💓💞💗 


How to Cure the Rainy Day Blues (& Look Cute Doing It!)

Rainy day Mondays get me down and rainy Tuesday and rainy Wednesday's.

You get the point, right?!

My life is so much better with the sunshine. I just do LIFE better. My hair is better. My attitude is better. I'm a southern girl addicted to the sunshine.

A few weeks ago we had a whole week or two of nothing but solid rain. I was in a very dark place and I needed to pull myself out of it. Like super fast. Which is especially hard when your whole life's passion is to be an encourager and motivator! But HEY, I'm human. It happens.

I know you're dying to know how I rebounded.

Here's what I did: I called my girlfriend and told her I was in crisis. I needed help to get up out of the craptastic mood I was in. With a few minutes of girl talk, I just knew I had to just get over myself and STOP whining!!!

I got up and I put on a cute shirt that had leopard print on it, which just happen to match my very cute rain boots my son bought me 10 years ago. I pulled my hair back in the cutest little ponytailand I put on my bright red lipstick.

I was ready to take on the world. Not really, but at least I felt cute!

I put on my summer playlist, Jimmy Buffett (I'm a Parrot Head!!)

I put my essential oils in the diffuser – a concoction called happy and joy. I turned on all the lights in the house. I opened all the blinds and let the light in.

Then:  the Biggie –  I had to change my self talk.

I had to talk myself out of this bad mood I was sinking into. I developed a mantra.

“I love today. I love me. I am joy. I am peace. I am happy. I am having a fabulous day.”

It worked for me and I hope it works for you!



AND here's my go-to playlist that always puts me in a better mood!


And if all else fails crawl back in bed, snuggle and watch Magic Mike on DVR!

The Ultimate Vegas Packing Guide!

Hey Baby let's go to Vegas...

But Holy Smokes what do I pack?!!


I am headed to a convention in the big LV next week! Excited yes! BUT, there's always one of those! And my BUT is:  PACKING!! LOATHE IT! Can't stand it, and don't even want to think about it! I either wayyyyy overpack, or underpack! There’s never a happy medium.


First off, I am indecisive. My outfits are planned by my mood and how I'm "feeling". I know,  it's Vegas and I will have a great time, but I still hate having to plan outfits!


Then,  it's the dread of “What can I get in my suitcase without going over?”


I like to think of it like a game, kinda like being on The Price is Right. However, the hubby doesn't find it entertaining at all. You know, as I'm on the floor at the airport moving things from bag to bag. He has "the look" of embarrassment, like “I do not know this woman”. To me,  it's just another trip to the airport!


Let me help you get out of your packing nightmare.


Click here for my list of:  What are you packing?


Remember friends: What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas!! But we gotta get you there first!!


Here are my packing tips from my last trip to Vegas:

Prepacking Prep: Determine how many days you will be going and what your activities will be.


Travel Day (departing and return day)

Empty Water bottle ( fill up after going through security)



Phone charger, cords and adapter

Rewetting drops for eyes if you wear contact lens

Lip Balm

Comfy travel clothes (preferably yoga pants – they’re comfy and wrinkle free)

Toiletries (I am a toiletry snob and will not use hotel freebies)

Toothbrush, toothpaste, dental floss

Shampoo, conditioner, hair serum, brush, hair dryer, flat iron, hair clips, hair spray

Body wash, hydrating body lotion (LV is DRY) razor,  sunscreen

Contact lens case, solution, glasses, sunglasses

Skin Care Regimen (cleanser, toner, serum, eye cream, day cream, night cream)

Makeup bag (primer, foundation, bronzer, brush set, blush, eye palette, concealer, highlighter, eyeliner , lip liner, mascara, lipstick, lip gloss)

If you're only using carry on bag and not checking ,all liquids need to be in a clear ziplock and less than 3.4 oz

Smart packing tip: place anything that can leak in a ziplock bag!

Outfits: It's Vegas so anything goes! You can dress it up or dress it down! The MOST important thing is SHOES!! You will walk more than you realize. My tip: wear comfy slip on shoes. You can change into your heels when you get to where you are going!


For me, I tend to be more casual by day and dressy by night. I find that dresses are the way to pack easy! You can roll them tightly like a burrito in your bag and takes up less space!


Items you MUST pack :




Bras and panties

Swimsuit and flip flops

Casual summer dress and sandals for day

Little black dress and heels for night

Accessories (necklace, earrings, bracelets) This will totally add flare to even the basic outfit

1 pair of jeans, basic Tee, and wedges


These are just MY suggestions!! My rule of thumb: take your toothbrush and a credit card.  Anything you forget can be purchased when you get there!!! Most importantly -  RELAX and HAVE FUN!!

How To Look Like You Just Got Back From The Beach-- Even If You Didn't!

Let's face it - winter is over !! And frankly,  I'm like soooo over it. I'm READY to look like I just rolled off the beach. The problem is, my Mexico vacay isn't until July and I'm rocking out the pasty white girl look.

I've also got an upcoming work conference in Vegas next month. While my girlfriends are all talking about drinks by the pool,  I'm secretly having a panic attack.

So ladies,  let's "fake it, til we make it".

Here are my top 5 tips to get you looking like Mexico is your second home!



Personally I've tried them all and here's my favorite. I love the smell and I love that it's toxin free!

Tip: Exfoliate really well before you apply!


Now,  I'm not talking the Friends episode where Monica gets overcome by humidity! I mean sexy,beach hair!! Stop by your local hair stylist and add in some blonde highlights! (side note ... I recommend you leave this to the professionals! I've had some really bad self-induced dye jobs!!)


I personally LOVE sunglasses! The bigger the better! I picked up this pair at Target for under $20!


Although it should come with a disclaimer , not all bronzers are created equally! Get one without to much shimmer ( it needs a little to help the light bounce around !) apply with a large fluffy brush. Start with a little! You can always add more!


Stay hydrated! Coconut water is perfect! It hydrates all the cells in your body and it's the perfect way to help you look and feel refreshed.

These are just a few of my tips. Visualize the sand between your toes and hum your favorite Jimmy Buffet song. Before you know it, you will be saying pass the sunscreen!

What are some of your favorite Summer Hacks? Share in the comments below!

To Selfie, Or Not To Selfie

Alright my friends, I just watched the most funniest video. I was crying it was so funny!! There may have been a few tears of truth mixed in too!!

The Instagram Husband!!

Confession time I have been this wife. Who am I kidding? I still am!! Maybe not as extreme as the video, but I have my moments!!

I LOVE pictures! I LOVE capturing life's moments to relive them! I LOVE having my picture taken! I LOVE every bit of it. If I'm having a great hair day, my makeup is perfect and the lighting makes me feel like a Supermodel, by all means, take my picture. If I'm snuggled up, hair on top of my head, glasses on and my dog is in my lap, snap away!!

I have over 9300 photos on my camera right now! I can't bear to delete them! 

The struggle for me is trying to capture the moment versus being PRESENT in the moment!


I want to be present and FULLY enjoy the moment, no distractions and EXPERIENCE LIFE, but then again I want to,  a year from now,  look back and relive the memory!! 

I just don't know where to draw the line. So in the meantime,  if I feel like taking a selfie, I WILL. And if I FEEL like driving my husband crazy making him take pics, I WILL. And if I decide that it's a moment I need to "just be in" I will turn off the phone. Secretly wondering if I should take a pic!!!


Bikini Bod in 14 Days!

OK, so let's keep this real. Let's just say maybe you totally got sidetracked with your New Year's resolution and you were going to start losing weight and getting healthy last Monday and the Monday before and the Monday before. Now the birds are starting to chirp,  flowers are blooming and Old Navy has their shorts out.  I'm feeling you!!

Here's what I want you to know: It's OK,  It's fine, I get it.

TODAY is a new day!!  Let's take all that frustration, shame and guilt about not starting and TOSS IT!! TODAY we are going to jump start you! You like that sound of that?! I sure do!!!

Moving ON – I have the PERFECT easy button for you!

14 Day Detox

What the what is this?!

It's a simple plan that will get you back on track. We are going to eliminate some foods that don't serve you, and ADD the foods, minerals and nutrients your body is CRAVING!! We are going to make it SUPER EASY in a special package deal!!

Here's a glimpse at how we are going to JUMP START you with our 14 DAY DETOX CHALLENGE !

1. Water!!

Your body NEEDS it! Trust me on this. Drink half your body weight in ounces of water daily. Example: If you weigh 160lbs you will drink 80 oz of water. The best way to kick this off is chug a lug at least 12 oz first thing in the morning!

2. Rise and Shine detoxers

Need some energy to jolt you out of bed and keep you from "running late”?  Arbonne Energy Fizz will be your new best friend.

3. Arbonne's vegan protein shake

Replace 1 meal a day with this yummy shake! (get in my belly good!!) If you don't like to cook, or tend to grab and go at lunch, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND having 2 shakes a day!

4. Sensible healthy meal and snacks

I will have some really quick and easy recipes for you! And a TIP sheet if you like to eat out.

5. Absolutely no eating/binging after 8pm

This gives your body time to process and reset!


Please try and remove all electronic devices and go to bed! No mindless Facebook scrolling. Your body needs SLEEP! At least 7-8 hours of sleep a night! You will be AMAZZZED! Plus, you aren't dragging bootie in the morning!!

Ok friends.... Now you KNOW this is going to be simple and easy!! I just need you to COMMIT to giving your body a 14 day reset!!

  Let's do this!!

The Girl Behind The Blog << My Story

Hey y'all! I am Gena Fryar – a small town girl with a huge heart. I had the pleasure of marrying my high school sweetheart, Billy, over 20 years ago. We have one son named Dillon. He is in college and engaged to be married this summer. I retired as an RN before the age of 40. We are now empty-nesters , travelling and LOVING every minute of life! 

My passion is helping others walk in their greatness because I spent so much of my life not walking in mine and not fulfilling my dreams. I had no idea what my purpose was and spent my days in survival mode working just to get by.

Then the unthinkable happened. The love of my life was in a car wreck and left paralyzed from the waist down. Immediately, overnight I became the primary breadwinner in our family. This happened to be the week my husband was getting a promotion, our son was starting kindergarten in a private school, and we were going to be closing on our dream home. Shifting from a two income home to a one income home overnight was NOT on my radar.

We had no Plan B.

I threw myself into my nursing career working 60 to 80 hours a week. I did that for six solid years before realizing something had to give. I was burnt out on life, marriage, and missed being a mommy!! During this time I became severely overweight. I had always battled my weight, but at this point it was completely out of control. I was diagnosed with high blood pressure, high cholesterol and triglycerides, and put on several medications.

All of this propelled my journey to health. I decided to start taking care of me. I lost 70 pounds by eating clean and using Arbonne essentials. If I could do this with my crazy, hectic lifestyle anyone could. I was able to build my Arbonne business around my career, replace my income and retired from nursing 6 years ago.

My life is completely different now – I work from home, I get to travel and have fun. My days are full of happiness and joy. I have finally been able to find "me". Best of all, I get to help others realize they can have a beautiful transformation and start living their dreams too!

My life isn't all rainbows and unicorns, BUT it's pretty close!!


I'm really looking forward to sharing more with you, and getting to connect & know a little more about each of you! Leave a comment below & introduce yourself!